Hi CW, just catching up...you really shouldn't feel regret about your "timeline" as you put it. You truly gave everything you had into trying to get your M. Your kids know it too, and when they have problems in their Ms in the future,they will remember their mom didn't give up and fought til the last minute. What if you had filed for D? What if you did it quickly? Wouldn't you have always wondered what "could" have happened? Now you don't have that regret because you know in your heart that you gave it your all. Your H will be the one left with doubt and regret.
About the kids saying OW was nice. Like everyone else said, OF COURSE she will be nice at first! But KIDS ARE VERY SMART. They will see through her. The nice act can only be upheld so far. I'll never forget when a previous middle school student of mine told me (of her own will) that her teacher suddenly acted nice to them whenever the principal was around and she figured her teacher probably didn't want to get fired. LOL!
Also the kids do not want this life. They will resent your H and the OW.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
