And the man that I am dealing with, is different. I mean really different. He got his chance with me. And -wait you wont believe this- he is trying. He is loving and caring and IN 100%. THAT gives me strength to go on trying to get over the lies and his A and that gives me hope.
This is the same for me. When W decided to work on the marriage and give up A, things changed in a big way. We are not yet to the marriage we want. I still hurt from the affair and she still feels guilty and wonders if I will ever "let it go". But we work together to get past those feelings. However, we both realize that those feelings are echoes of the past and not our current reality.
But when things changed, they changed in a big and noticeable way over a period of a few weeks. I don't know if it happens the same for all who reconcile, but this does seem to be a commonality between Kalni and I.
