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[awest1217]

H did come to the party and didn't come to say hi to me at all. MIL had S in the front yard so H just hung out with them for a while. When he came in, he noticed my new jean jacket and I just said yes it was new. I didn't talk much and was very cold. Probably shouldn't have been, but I am sick of his stupidity and thinking he can play me.

When S and I left, H said good night, i love you, and tried to give me a kiss. I didn't kiss back and just said good night. He then text me to say what is my problem. I told him exactly what my problem was. I let him know that I know it shouldn't bother me, but SIL's sister's ex (long I know) saw him with OW and I don't want to pretend when I know he is still seeing her. I said it is none of my business because he hasn't ever told me that he is going to work on us so I shouldn't get upset. I said it is his life and he can do with it what he wants. I said that I am not going to be lovey and listen to him say I love you when he is still potentially saying that to OW. I let him know that he might be doing that or he may not, I don't know because I don't check up on him and he has complete privacy to do whatever he wants to do, but I am not going to be played again.

On a side note, most people don't tell me if they see H with OW because they know I am not really talking to him, but SIL's sister's ex is one of those chivalrous sweet guys and probably was just trying to look out for me. Very sweet.

I haven't heard anything back from him and don't expect to. I am tired of him thinking he can hang with her because they are "just friends", but then tell me he loves me. THe other thing I told him is that it bothers me because that is time he could have been spending with us. He saw S tonight for 1 hour and that is it for the entire week. This would have been "his weekend" so he could have asked to see S especially since I was busy at the sale or he could have come over before the party to see S and I instead of hanging with OW, but instead he didn't get to the party until almost 6:30 (1 hour after it started and we got there) and we left at 7:30. It just makes me so mad that he would continually choose to hang out with her instead of us, and to think I really thought he might be changing....so much for rehab...