Update: Attended my family reunion this weekend solo. Good to be with the family, but felt incredibly alone and abandoned, esp during picture time. Need to get over that.
W had a sad weekend, emotionally distraught about missing the reunion, but knowing it would have been hard for her to attend it due to the depressive rollercoaster she is on.
W brought up some R talk when I got back. She wants to stick with her plan to file for D next month. She is intent on following through the game plan she has laid out for the next couple of months, and I sense that having a game plan is important to her sense of self. Says she is not going to change her mind. She maintains she does not know what the future holds, wants to take things one day at a time. Wants us to remain friends. It is like she is closing one chapter of her life, and preparing to start a new one, and some times I am in the new chapter,and sometimes not.
She says she feels that she has said what she needed to, but is open to talking to me, including MC, if I have things I want to say to her. Have been working on GAL, not making contact unless she initiates. Do I consider MC at this point?
Bottom line: W seems intent on D, but seems to be doing it just to do it. I sense vacillation at times, but if I explore that, the opening quickly shuts. What is my best approach here?
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
