BD, sorry I suggested it's good that he wants to be in your son's life because yes, if they are separated, it's always going to be partial involvement. Which sucks big time.
Yes, it makes no sense when they say they are leaving you but not the baby, or that I am here for the baby (implying not for you). The baby is INSIDE us. We are one. We are women, so that's how we see it. Maybe men see it a different way..?
I also beleive these guys would NEVER have picked up and left if we didn't get pregnant - even if it was THEIR wish to have a family!!! But pregnancy is one of those huge life triggers... it tips people over the edge. If they have doubts, they feel TRAPPED. This is certainly my H's case.
As for you wanting to stall the pregnancy, heck, I've been thinking for weeks if only I could press PAUSE while I sorted myself out and my M before little one arrives. It's good to be honest. You are a woman! Not just a mother. You'll take care of the baby just fine when he comes.. I know it from reading you all this time. Don't stress about that today.
Like you, I have had to hear it a thousand times. How about take it this way: TODAY he FEELS he doesn't love you "that way".
No one can tell whether or not he will love you that way again.
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
