I feel like he may have thought he wanted to have a family, but when we got PG maybe he realized he never wanted that? Maybe he wants a whole new life. With a new career, and a new wife... a new life...
BD I feel the exact same way. Guess he didn't want a family. This has been clanging around in my brain for the last month. Am trying to hold onto that thought so that it will help me understand why he is doing this/has done it.
About your mom's help- I gotta tell you that my mom was here during the first month and I was GRATEFUL! It is pretty hairy the first couple of months and starts to calm down approaching the 3rd month...at least in my case and I have been told S was "easy."
About signing the D papers. When will he bring it up again do you guess? Do you want to wait for him to initiate the talk? If you sign them, it is the start of the process. IF D is what you need to detach, then do it. As for your H thinking he will be 100% in his S life--sorry, but that is not possible unless he is married to you, right? He will be 50% involved at the most. RIGHT????
Check out my post from today in infidelity forum.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
