W still wants separation, need to DB more

[james217]

I had gone to church today and heard something that has put me in a more positive mental state.

I reacted defensive in some situations and maybe over reacted. The past couple days I , since things have gone pretty well considering and compared to the a couple months ago, I have expected a certain response or reaction.

I don't think it is so much my W trying to push my buttons than it is her expressing how she feels at that very moment. Due to our situation to here marriage is nothing special or all that it is made out to be.

I plan I calling for my second DB coaching session this week. I will mention these things and see where it goes.

I had an intrapersonal conversation today and I know I got off track of accomplishing my personal goals to becoming a better person and the husband my W would not want to leave.

Looking back at my goals I set 3 weeks ago, 4-5 were accomplished. Some not consistent but met. After talking to the DB coach again I will go back to my goals, rethink and revise.

good on accomplishing the goals. But OIN you're figuring it out. You see she was pushing your buttons because you were giving her the "usual expected response, interaction or reaction." She's going to "test you" and "push your buttons" and "put feelers out there" to see if "your changes" are real. It may be intentional or unintentional or just become a habit for her to do it. The thing is you're going to have to really think things through so you don't backslide. And you're on the right track with the POSITIVE ENERGY, positive interactions, positive responses but you still don't have to be a doormat either.