Feeling crap, BD. So with ya on that one. But a bit better after seeing WAH yesterday. Family and friends are not your life partner - they are a different type of relationship, I so agree. Despite me not wanting my birth partner to be my mum, I have come to accept she is the next best thing to my H. And I am lucky to have family that care, even if they come nowhere near CLOSE to replacing my H who I love so much and who is me/him, him/me. Maybe that was the problem! and why detaching is not possible for me! I told H yesterday that this child was created from our love and I will be birthing it that way. I can't birth a child separate from my love for him. I will be attached, in spite of myself. I am in shock when I wake up...mornings scare the bejeebies out of me. That's when I get on here. Currently 6am! Yes, I am often rude n grumpy with the poeple who have stepped in to fill H's shoes. I resent them. I resent the situation. I need to become a better person. Good on you for staying in your home if you can to have the baby. You are going to be sooo proud of yourself. I am doing it the wimpy way and going to my mums ofor a few weeks at least.
About having your H involved. Don't be worried if you are unsure now. In my sitch, I have really fretted. You know what, why don't you decide on thee day?! no kidding! just do what you feel you can handle at that time. Right now, you just don't know. Thats OK!
As for him being involved in the lead up.. if you want him with you and are in a place where his presence is GOOD for you boht, not the opposite, then I'd let him in. May not be good for saving the M, but might help end the bitterness?
