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[Awoken]

So, I just picked D17 up from school, brought her home so she could pick up her car (They don't allow juniors to park at school).

She packed a few more of her things, and left to pick up S14 and head over for their first official week at their mom's apartment. So it begins. We are not officially divorced yet, but this certainly feels like the first real week of it.

I'll have a lot of extra time this week, and a lot to do.
I need to:
1) work out a new livable budget
2) get the house in order, I'm missing a lot of stuff
3) reassess my business, create some more income
4) finalize the refi for the house
5) develop some NEW GAL goals

I'm sure there's more; I'm feeling bother overwhelmed, and stunned by the sudden emptiness here. This is really the first time I've been alone in twenty years.

It could turn out to be a very good thing, right?

[FindingMyVoice]

It could turn out to be a very good thing, right?

((((Awoken)))) Yes, most definitely.

[givingitmyall]

It IS a good thing. Would you rather have the current version of your W there?

So, you have a week with yourself. What does Awoken want to do? Focus on yourself. And, be a little selfish.

Focus on being alone, not lonely.

[Gardener]

Awoken,

This is really the first time I've been alone in twenty years.
It could turn out to be a very good thing, right?

My son, DIL and GS lived with me temporarily for several months after the bomb (they were in transition between living in NYC and Conn.). It was good to have them here (especially GS! )

When the three of them - and their great dog and three great cats - moved out, I missed them. Briefly.

I very soon realized that it was time for me to be alone.

And I was right. And it was - and has been - good.

[Awoken]

Thanks GIMA, Gardener, PG.

I'm finding it good to be here alone. I can play music as loud as I want, and the piano with the office doors open, and as loud as I want. Somehow I just realized, I now can have jam sessions here now!

Its still odd. Six months ago, I never would have considered divorce.

Yesterday, D17 asked me is she could ask me a "funny buy serious question". Of course, I said yes; I was very curious....
She wanted to know how many women "hit" on me, since I took off my ring.

I answered truthfully. I told that a few had been interested, but I wasn't remotely ready for a relationship now, and that I was still married even though me and her mom were very separated. She told me she just wants me to end up happy. It was very touching, but I hate that she is so worried about me. It tells me that I need to project a much more positive attitude around her!

And I worry about them too. So, there's another benefit of my time by myself. I can let mom worry this week. And she seems to be doing very well with the not-drinking. I'm sure the kids will let me know if it's otherwise.

[v1olin]

You are not ready for a relationship but... have a big party/jam session and invite lots of ladies! It will be a ton of fun and you will start to feel more confident! What kind of music do you guys play?

[Sister]

I'm finding it good to be here alone. I can play music as loud as I want, and the piano with the office doors open, and as loud as I want. Somehow I just realized, I now can have jam sessions here now!

There ya go! Start thinking about and coming up with the positives in this situation of living alone. I'm surprised to hear that you haven't had jam sessions before. And remember it'll only be for a week at a time, so that should make the transition slightly easier. Hey, you do have your pets as well. They make great company. I talk to my cats all the time! Keep that PMA going.

It's good to see you making a list of goals. It'll give you something to focus on. Don't focus on ALL of them at once, but just one at a time so you don't feel overwhelmed.

It could turn out to be a very good thing, right?

ABSOLUTELY!

[flowmom]

Being alone is weird when you're a parent . But make the most of it

[FindingMyVoice]

Hi Awoken! Just checking in to say hi and see how you're doing on your first week. How's your to-do list coming? Did you make your GAL list? Hope all is well.

[Sister]

So how'd your first week alone go? Been thinking about you. Got that first jam session planned yet?