a&k, The point I think you are missing is that what you are talking about the way you describe it is NOT a marriage my dear.
This is exactly what I was thinking when I read it.
Okay guys, let's get real. No one comes here with what any sane person would classify as a marriage. I read about husbands spawning with lovers and wives ignoring their husbands for months on end. The whole logic, in my opinion, is that we are trying to revive a marriage that is nearly dead from the moment we arrive here. So, I don't even get what the point of that comment is.
Hi A&K,
I think that what Kalni said was "the way you describe it". If my W told me she wanted an open marriage; I wouuld have to say that is not a marriage at all. Is this what your H wants or is it just his "ideal fantasy" life. To me, if it is what he really wants; that would be a non-starter.
Is he trying to make the marriage work? Is he treating you any better than before? Is he improving in your eyes? Is he committing to you?
I can tell you that WAS can change. It doesn't become perfect, but they can decide that the marriage is valuable to them and work on it. Has this happened for you?
