I'll try Puppy - My W was going into her script the first night about how she didn't love me, wasn't happy in our M and that she felt trapped like she had no where to go.
This was where I did what I could to validate and listen. It didn't stay in this frame which is when I excused myself and went to bed. She started to talk about how I was controlling her about OM and if I knew what they talked about I'd laugh. Insisting nothing was going on. That is what changed during the following conversation the next day.
This thing is far from over though. Friday my W emailed me that she found my book and call off the FT. I don't even know which book?
Anyway, I wrote back 'happy to discuss but I'll cancel for now'. This created a pretty chill environment but I kept on GAL Friday night - watched a movie I rented. W then was very angry and came down stairs and said something like 'I don't like the new (name -me).' I just said 'you'd didn't like the old me much obviously'
Here we are today and W is telling me all about a new book she's reading on happiness. It seemed a good book so I said 'that's great'. Then we had a pretty normal day (so far).
I know there is a lot of work still and I'm still ensuring I gather whatever intel I can.
I left W to re-schedule FT appointment.
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation