Thanks glimmerman, I am doing quite a bit more housework than normal buy my W hasn't addressed it at all. She went out to run errands, came home and is watching tv in our room with the door closed. I am trying to stay busy but I'm riding the line between doing too much and not enough. Pretty soon there won't be Anthony left to clean. I guess I can't assume that she isn't noticing any of the work doing but then again that can't be my focus anyway.
Just trying to stay positive and not let my mind get the best of me.
Not only can't her noticing be your focus. You shouldn't care. Having a clean house is a reward in itself, and guess what? You cleaned it yourself. You can do things all by yourself. Part of the whole GAL/detachment idea is just finding a calm, confident center where you know that no matter what happens you are going to be OK.
Not that you will be like that 24x7, but I am finding I am more and more sure that I will be OK no matter what happens, so I am 99% PMA. I do live under the same roof with my W, and sometimes I get sucked into her gloom, but even when that happens, I am fine knowing there is nothing I can do about her mood when she is not receptive. I am not doing anything that should make it worse, but I realize it's not something I can control.
Our situations--with the exception of the big D talk--aren't completely similiar, so take this with a grain of salt, but... once you are happy not knowing what is going to happen, your confidence is going to return, and your head is going to be clearer for having gone through all of this, I expect.
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