Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[Geomom]

Babydoll and newmama, I feel as if I'm in both your shoes ... only it took 7 years to get there! My H said he always wanted a family; I wasn't so sure. We were together 10 years before having our son, and always got along wonderfully. He was super-supportive throughout the pregnancy and for about 2 weeks after our son was born. Then, he just turned nasty. Scowled all the time, was always angry at me, complained about the house being unkempt and me being hormonal (I was just exhausted, and suddenly being treated like that didn't help). This went on for a long time, and I cried a LOT alone with my baby.

As our son grew a bit older, things seemed to improve some, although the Dr. Jekyll side of H would come out once in a while. (I know work/financial pressures entered into this as well.) We finally had a big talk about, oh, maybe two years later where I told him how awful he'd made me feel when our son was younger. We seemed to work through it, and I promised him I'd never mention those early baby-day difficulties again (and I haven't).

It feels, though, as if something in him just changed so dramatically when we went from two to three. I know he loves our son more than anything -- don't doubt it for a second -- but I feel like his image and expectations of me just shifted big-time.

I woke up this morning feeling like I'd been sold a bill of goods: He wanted me to be a mom, but once I became one, I wasn't who he married anymore. What do you do with that?