I am sorry for your need to be here but you found the right place.
The road will get easier when you listen to the advice given here. Everyone has been where you are. The advice may seem hard to do or counterintuitive but you find it is the only way through.
The pain is actually our friend it pushes us always in the right direction. This is very hard stuff but you can make it since you have already shown the courage to be here.
Your first and hardest step is to detach. You must do this. It is the hardest part I have done so far but once you do it you will be in a much better place for YOU, Your children and your M.
As Snodderly said this process is about YOU. Take care of YOU and do for YOU.
YOU are the stronger one here so you see why this won't work if you're not.
What is the status of your communications with H?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
