...and..what you both added above...leads us to the final portion of the detachment: that you cannot control their decision to not want us. So..by detaching...they have an opportunity to see what they are going to lose.
It's a choice...for them. NOT US. Many of us here forget or, never knew, what it is like to be loved...and respected..and cherished. So, I post here one of my favorite scenes from the movie The Family Man to remind everyone what marriage can be like..what it IS like for some:
Quote:
Kate: When you got on that plane, I was sure it was over. I left the airport afraid I'd never see you again. And then you showed up the very next day. That was a good surprise. You know, I think about the decision you made... maybe I was being naive, but I believed that we would grow old together in this house. That we'd spend holidays here and have our grandchildren come visit us here. I had this image of us, all grey and wrinkly, and me working in the garden and you re-painting the deck. But things change. If you need this, Jack, if you really need this, I will take these kids from a life they love and I'll take myself from the only home we've ever shared together and I'll move wherever you need to go. I'll do that because I love you. I love you, and that's more important to me than our address. I choose us.
"I choose us."
God bless. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
