My W was looking forward to the future but it did not have me in it. I am only 3 months into my sitch after nearly 10 years of being the terrible person I was. I know it will take time for her to change direction. What she is doing in the moment is only destructive it I let be destructive. I combat her attitude with positive energy.
As for the coach, I don't think so, but I am uncertain, check the F.A.Q section
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10