I don't know if this will be encouragement to you or not, but here's how I handled some of that stuff....also a mistake or two that I made.
By the time we got to where you are, I had already seen a C on my own a couple of times, so I had some benefit from that guidance.
The wisdom I received from my C was to let her do the work, but to be cooperative. So, here's how I handled that. Basically, I turned a lot of things into a question. For example, when she asks you how you are going to split that stuff up, ask her what she's got in mind.
I read a post from Greek yesterday. I don't remember the verbiage, but it was something like she "delayed" or "drug her feet" when she was having some uncertainty or doubt that she really wanted to divorce. You might notice for instance that your W goes gangbusters to get this stuff done for a few weeks, or a couple of months, for example. Then starts to slow down. If she doesn't slow down, you'll know emotion is still running very high. It seems that on the part of the WAW that action is a result of emotion (which is probably obvious).
So, I understand how hurtful this is for you. Hang in there and be cooperative as you can.
One other thing for you. If you don't normally do a bunch of housework, I'd not go overboard in what you're doing now. My W got angry when I started trying to serve her and pulled away more. She saw it as manipulative. Don't know if yours is the same, but that's what I found in my situation.
A few different things helped my situation, but time was a big one. In time, my W's anger slowed down and she became more willing to talk about her feelings. Leading the way in seeking C on my own seemed very beneficial also.
