a&k, I understand everything you posted. I have thought many of your thoughts. The point I think you are missing is that what you are talking about the way you describe it is NOT a marriage my dear. A marriage takes two, any kind of relationship takes 2. So, drop the "I dont believe in divorce thing" and the associated guilt and change it to "I believe in marriage as a union of 2 people loving and respecting each other". If that's what you believe and I think it is, it will answer your questions about what to do and there is nothing else to it. You've been one of my heroins here, K
