MLC - standing by my man

[Mila]

Snodderly - Thank you so much for stopping by, I've been reading lots of your postings. I sure could use your advice. If I go back to just business partner...I still feel that he is cake eating. Everything will be running smoothly for him, just as before...with OW on the side.

HB - your advice makes lots of sense...He is weak and he jumps every time the OW whistles. I know that I can't leave things as they are for long. I'm pretty sure that he knows that I know, because he knows that the OW's H is in contact with me.

I will cool off and collect and feel things out more before I confront him. I don't want to do it when I'm so out of balance either.

CW - thank you for your support - yeah back to detachment....How many times am I going to let him kick me in the gut.

Before the last fake R, I was really doing pretty good, standing and being his friend & business partner...I didn't do any favors for him then and he didn't ask. I was actually shocked when he announced that the affair was over and really tried to keep detached and see what happens. But the way he was talking and behaving he really gave me hope that he's finally finding his way home. Gradually I started to do more wifely things for him and he was doing nice things for me too.

His behavior changed slightly in the last week or so and I sensed it (that's apparently when he started communicating with OW again). What really upsets me is that knowing that he is in contact with her he would still ask me to get his dad's present and come to that birthday dinner today as a family. We even wrote a B-day card to his dad from all of us. How can I even look at him and pretend that everything is OK tonight. I don't want talk to him before I'm ready and spoil his dad's b-day.

I'm hoping that he is still wavering and maybe, just maybe he is still thinking which way to go. Maybe I should give him little bit more time to figure it out and not force a confrontation. I don't know.