I guess if you have advice for her to break him out in the courts, you may as well pass it.
Also do not listen to your wifes "a real man has a job", because right now you don't have a job and a REAL WIFE or a REAL WOMAN would have picked up the slack and would not have looked at her own man any differentl due to the change in his situations.
A real wife can have her husband become outcast and still love him the same.
Anyway sounds good. Sounds like you got everything covered. She shouldn't have left you while you where down.
By the way a real wife would become even more empowered by a situations where her husband is at a disadvantage.