Some of those comments from the wedding are completely ballbreaking. Of course she thinks she's being honest. I talk to my EX-wife and we have a prety good relationship. She normally says "life is a bitch", and my comeback to that is "life is not a bitch, we make it a bitch".
Now she's saying "life is a ball", and thats the way I was accustomed to living before the marriage with my current wife who has self-limiting beliefs and beliefs which make my life "a bitch", LOL. One of my current wifes beliefs is "you don't get what you want", and another is "life is a bitch". Due to those beliefs, she makes it true.
Anyway what I'm saying to you, is maybe you come out of "police" mode and overly analytical mode and switch it to "life is a ball mode". What that means is you guys are dating, you are supposed to ENABLE her having fun and enjoying life.
What I'm saying is you already know you guys are going to have to date a little, do some sugar daddy stuff and give her some money tell her to buy her self something, or to go somewhere with her girlfriends, go on a trip with her ( Vegas, Cruise, etc ), or even send her on a trip by herself.
Its going to take a while. If she stays in this disallusioned with marriage ballbreaker mode, I'm not sure your going to like it too much. I know I wouldn't and most people on this DB forum would not like it.
The other thing is get funnier. Comebacks to those ballbreaks will lessen their impact, and lessen her impact when she does it.
IE: she says "Maybe she realized what a big mistake she just made.", you could say "yeah, I guess so" or even "well maybe she knows for a fact that she didn't make a mistake". Something.
By the way OIN, for 5 years in my current situation, just about every remark, every comment I get from my wife is completely ballbreaking, completely disrespecting, etc. I'm literally talking over several dozen ballbreaking comments per day, and at its worst, hundreds per day.
I may have gotten half a dozen ballbreaking comments in a month in past relationships and early on with her, so this really was a big change.
Over time this verbal abuse affected my view of self, my personal power, even my erections. Don't take it. None of us should take eating [censored] laid out for us in our personal relationships.
Also the marriage counselor needs to be aware of those comments.
Anyway, I'm not really telling you what to do, as usual just throwing some ideas out here.
