Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

Oops- sorry BD for misunderstanding about the D papers. I was scared of raising a boy. Will your H be involved at all?

The thing is boys are like girls (as babies) because they just want their momma! S likes to bang things hard, and likes to "rough house" or "wrestle" which he started at 8 months! So funny! I take his lead to see what toys he likes- things that have buttons, make sounds, have doors or flaps to open and shut, and he loves balls! He also likes moving his trucks around- so funny because it sounds stereotypical. He loves books and soft things, too, and stuffed animals. Hates pink- just kidding!

OK what I was going to say is that by filing for D and "dropping the rope" your H may surprise you. Best to write him off for now but I wouldn't be shocked to read on your thread that he takes his time to go through with the D or even if he does, that in the future (within the year) he is back. I didn't want to say that because I know it gives hope and don't know if you want hope. The downside of hope for me is that it has prevented me from detaching! Although NC really helps to detach (for me) 90%!