Just got a call from OW's H telling me that his wife announced that the affair with my H is back on and that she has decided that's what she wants after all and that she will be leaving her H again.
What a mess!!
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Now what...do I confront him about it...do I wait for him to tell me? I can't take anymore of this. The way he's been playing with my emotions is cruel. This was the second time he wanted to R. And each time it lasts couple of weeks and the affair is back on.
This time you'll need to confront him, if only to CONFIRM what you were told.....and to let him know where you stand. He is apparently WEAK.
This has happened MORE than once, so confrontation is in order to stop him from eating cake. He cannot have BOTH of you at his disposal. He also has to know and understand you are NOT his safety net every time OW breaks it off with him; that there is a limit to what you can take.
I'm sorry, but shutting him totally out after making it clear you will not tolerate this again until he is more clear about what he wants may be what it takes to turn him around....although it is OW's doing, it is also HIS fault for being so weak.
Just my two cents.. I've NEVER had to deal with a second time, but I know I would NOT and could NOT do it again.
Confirm it, though, before you do anything.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
