Going, glad to see you are going to stick around on this forum. I responded to you in zen's thread. I realize you don't want to write a long history but it would be helpful of you just listed a time line of some kind.
I have to say that when you said your H contacted OW to tell OW you 2 needed a temporary separation that it isn't good...
"temporary" isn't strong enough. In your mind, you can think temporary but he should hear "separation" and see that you are serious about taking the time to decide what you want for your future. Whether you want to stay married or not.
The upside to the separation is that it will give you a break from the pain he is causing you and seriously, you should take the time to improve yourself. It MAY cause him to realize he doesn't want to lose you.
The downside to separation is that he has free reign to be with OW. And if you are not acting strong and detached or distant then he won't see the seriousness of it. Fake it til you make it.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
