Okay, then stay here in this forum. Weekends are slow, but if you will stay here....you will get help. Allen & Puppy are good to help folks in this forum if you will not bounce from one forum to another. Others will come and find you,but it takes time.

If you need to journal, then it helps us for you to just say that you are journaling. If you need advice, then just ask.

I hear your frustation and your deep hurt. I am very concerned that you continued to have sex with your H even after he was unfaithful (if I understood the story correctly) and now you are giving the "final" ultimatum.

I don't know if you have read the threads on "boundaries" or not. Boundaries are not ultimatums. You can read about the differences. I will try to find the link and post it. You can read other threads here on this forum from Allen. He talks a lot about the steps to take with this.

I don't know, but don't recall reading where your H had to suffer any consequences. You thought he broke contact with OW but now he's backwith her? He has had the best of both worlds. Maybe he's in MLC, IDK. But for sure, he's wayward.

Just stay here in this forum and you'll get responses. I will check back later. Try to do something for yourself that will help to calm the stress. Distant yourself from him and don't discuss R or OW or anything like that with him today. Just think about your health and taking care of yourself. He may have infected you. If you decide to have sex with him again.....please use protection. You have to think about your life.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!