Infidelity/Extramarial Affairs/Jealousy

[Goingdownhill]

OK. Zen I'm totally impressed. I need some of your mojo for my sitch.

But I'm confused. We say if the cheating spouse wants to return to the marriage to try and reconcile then there has to be complete accountability. However, what about internal versus external locus of control. My IC and I talked about it. Does this mean that he has to be willing to cut her out of everything in his life (e.g. internal locus of control). And what's the so what if he doesn't, cause he didn't in my case. He contacted her again.