Trusting someone again

[brknheart]

Memories from the past popup in my head from time to time thought out the day. This happens a lot less frequently than it has in the past but I still have those moments/days. The other day I was thinking about how many things fked up things my XW did the past 8-9 months, how she used me the past 5 years to get through school, all the lies she told me, and how she screwed me with the divorce separation of property. I found out the other day that she started seeing the guy she is currently in a relationship with during the time she asked for some "space" and I moved out to give her that space. Just one of many acts of betrayal that she has done. I ask myself, "How can she live with herself?" The only thing I can come up with is she has no conscience. I tell myself, what comes around goes around.

That leads me to the Subject of my post. I worry if I can ever trust someone again like I trusted her. I never thought she would or could do the things she has done. Ive had people tell me "You shouldn't tell your husband/wife everything, some things are best kept to yourself." Thats not my way of thinking, I told my XW everything, always honest. After all, isnt trust one of the most important, if not the most important things in a relationship/marriage?

So for those that have been through your D and came out the other side shining, what is your take on trust?