I'll confess it's been a while since I've read your situation, but I've got some input for you.
First, I'm sad to read that you plan to tell your W it's over. Two weeks ago, you were posting about being patient.
Next, it's probably too late now, but I would have accepted the dinner invite. It may be an opportunity to get a read on your W for a longer period of time than your normal 5 minutes. In my situation, I used any invited opportunity to listen to what my W had to say.
You are still way too bothered by your W friend. Quick story from my situation....I was concerned about one of my W's divorced friends, too. She told my W what I'll bet 90% of their friends tell them..."girl, you do what you gotta do!".
So now a few months later, my W is telling her friend that we are working on our M. Guess what my W's friend says to my W? She says "that's so cool, my XH was such an a$$ about trying".
Don't worry about her friends. She needs the emotional connection from them.
While I agree with protecting yourself financially, make sure this doesn't translate into being mean spirited about it....no matter how she's acting.
