still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[newmama]

I don't have anyone to talk to tonight so I am going to vent here.
Just got back from seeing my sister graduate from college! And went to her party at my dad's house.

My stepmom isn't the most tactful. I have said nothing to my dad about WH's decision to file. But I haven't seen them in a few months.

So my stepmom says, in front of my 23 yr old sister (ok) and her 9 year old daughter and her 15 year old daughter, "your sister told me about WH's TESTICLES!!!HA! I laughed pretty hard!! How ironic! I just can't believe it! He sure deserved that-can you believe it?" blah blah blah

I didn't laugh with her, just said "yeah they removed a lump but it wasn't cancerous." She is a chaplain btw. I was pissed that she regularly talks about it in front of the kids...every time I see her she is not private about it.

So then my Lebanese 77 year old aunt with 2 hearing aids tells me in front of my mom,her H,sisters "I heard about your H. What is he thinking?? I was so glad you found a good man and was going to be happy. He is an a**hole. I'm so sorry! how are you?"

I told her that I was going to be ok and I'd find somebody else.

Later she brought it up again. "I can't believe it. What does the woman look like? Because maybe if she's beautiful, she tricked him. Did you know him before you were married? Is he paying the mortgage? Does he ever see your baby? Well you know what. Maybe he'll come back to you."

arghh...I pretended it was all practice for returning to work. I just nodded, agreed it sucked, said I would be ok and then didn't offer much to carry the conversation.