alive, I don't know how things will shake out for me, but it appears the DB approach seems to have helped some people. Even if it doesn't work, though, I think the advice is good ... I, like, you am right now wondering (as I reminisce) how I could have been so bend-over-backwards willing-to-please when it wasn't being reciprocated. The recommendations that you be strong and take care of yourself first are good ones, I believe.

H 42
Me 47
DS 7
T 18
M 16
Bomb: 4/20/10
H leaves to live at Mom's: 4/30/20

My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1990503#Post1990503