but he did want to settle down and does want children, just say i would be a bad mom because all i do is be lay and spend his money, which i guess there is some truth to. it sounds as if you think the prognosis is not good for us, am i right? you had many many good points and i absolutely adore you for being so honest and direct with me. I wish you could be my personal mentor. I'm so freaking confused and scared right now. can you tell me more about 'detatching'? do i ignore him if he does call?