I haven't gotten the feeling from Chief that his wife fell into the category of "bad" people. So my comments to him are to him, and I suppose anyone else who doesn't find their walkaway spouse to be a fundamentally bad person.
If you have a spouse who takes the same approach to marriage that he/she does to buying a car, well then all bets are off it seems to me. Can't do much about that.
In the words of Adam Sandler's character in Big Daddy, "THAT would have been nice to know!"
Not everone who does what we could consider a bad thing is a bad person. Good people do bad things sometimes too. It's up to each one of us to judge our OWN situation and make those kinds of determinations.
There is a flicker of life here in Chief's situation. But I don't want him focusing on that. I want him to continue enjoying his newfound single life. I want him to continue enjoying being a father and a good man. I want him to continue to treat his wife with kindness and civility, even in the face of her pursuit dance behavior. And I want him to tread very carefully in the area of new relationships (like TM).
But what he chooses to do is up to him.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
