Very true glimmerman, it's very much in my nature to want to address things and try and solve them (never works I'm realizing), it's a real leap of faith for me to live outside my comfort zone (no matter how wrong it is) and leave her alone in this time of crisis. I am really trying to focus on remembering the things she has been saying and asking of me and really listening to those requests. I feel so stupid for ignoring them for so long. She wasn't just asking those things to hear herself talk, those were heartfelt requests to better the way we interacted. I wish I could tell her that I realize that now. It sucks to have to wait and be silent, but I know it's unfortunatly the only way to approach it now.