Thanks glimmerman,

I know that her family wants us to be together & happy ultimatly but I don't know what they are telling her now. I k ow I need to stay out of it and focus on bettering myself. It's pretty tough to just let it go.

I have been reading alot of other threads and I see all the advice eveyone is giving, thanks again to everyone that has taken a moment to respond to my sitch. Please keep it coming, I can really use the advice and encouragement.