However, when I listen to what he says about me, it's hard not to get into that pattern, too.
When you are in that pattern, how do you feel about yourself? Are you proud of your actions? I'm guessing no. I found that I can't keep myself from getting dragging in at the slightest body language or tone thrown at me.
Did he say anything to you about the moving out thing or did he rush over last Monday to take more things?
Fortunately, I have not fallen into this pattern. I just want to. I did vent on the night that I told him to get his things if he wanted them, and I didn't say anything that I would ever wish I could take back. I don't do these things because I wouldn't feel proud of my actions and know how damaging words can be.
However, I have noticed that my H has bristled at my words, tone, or alleged implications in recent months. I'm almost insulted that he would think I would be deliberately passive-aggressive or biting with my comments (especially since I have no history of this). Are his actions/reactions more about his defensiveness and guilt than about what I say and how I say it?
Ah, the moving. I have some information about that. I have to stop posting for a few moments (tornado warning right now), but I'll give the update in a new post in a moment.
