Messed up

[jt2007]

This is true about not needing to walk on eggshells or live in fear of whats going to or not going to make someone upset at you.

I just wish he wouldnt have such a bad attitude towards me. I dont want him to find someone else he treats with a better attitude..not sure how thats working out for me...except I hate having the OW get the emotional attention that he was suppose to be putting towards us.
He has been upset with her several times right in front of me.
But..
Then again ..she doesnt live with him..
I did

The strong women he keeps talking about would never put up with his BS.
The situations I can imagine for him in a real relationship are either:
He would find someone that would be as weak as I was back then.
Or HE would turn into a weaker person to let someone else take him over.

Kind of think it would be the latter..just because the OW right now because she does whatever she wants and tells him the same things Iv been trying to tell him for years about himself and what makes him unattractive. Mostly his bulling, and attitudes...but HEY he is listening to her...
I asked him one time why...he said because he didnt respect my opnion because I had not been around other people or in the workforce...
Dont need to be in it to see it!

And when i would say something to him he would reply with "OW told me the same thing" so guess it is a good Idea
UMM still trying to figure exactly the psychology of what is happening here.

I never nagged him about anything, just if it situation came up I would tell him my thoughts.

So Im not sure if any of this is salvagable or workable...if he isnt willing to see any light ...should I Still try?

My birthday is comming up this week...so I m trying to brace myself for him ignoring me on that day.

Also divorce is comming up to be final in June...still trying to brace myself for that.. the final stepping off into im not sure what....with our relationship...dont know yet if he really still wants anything to do with me or is just putting up front untill the papers are final.

Not sure how he will react.

Im trying to find how some other similar sitch handled that time, and also what their xspouse did when it actually came to for the final divorce decree before the judge.