I've looked around, and haven't really found much on this topic. Often mentioned, but rarely discussed in detail, in any thread I've found yet anyway. One article here talks about it, but doesn't really offer much about how to deal with it. The general consensus here, based on another thread I started (and bombed on, unfortunately), seems to be 'there is nothing you can do about it, oh well.' My apologies, but I'm not buying that, just yet, anyway.

So what I would like is not so much a discussion (not that I can control a thread, but it's worth a shot) but to actually hear some of ya'lls experiences in this department. What did you do? What did you not do? Did it work? Did it backfire? Anything that helped, even a little? Anything help a lot? How would you handle what you tried differently if you could rewind life?

While I fully understand that there is little likelihood of stopping it, I simply can't imagine there aren't things we could do to help mitigate the damage these well meaning . . . and not-so-well-meaning friends of the people we love cause to our efforts to hold our marriages together.

What is your experience with this situation?

Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.