I am off tomorrow and so is she. I'm worried about how our interaction will be the first day off together since she brought up D. I plan on going to the pub in the morning to watch a soccer game but I may be back before she is even awake. Tomorrow is also mothers day. My mom died almost 12 years ago to the day. I admit I am still really screwed up about the whole thing and I have a tendency to become pretty unbearable to be around this time of year. I am really trying to focus on not bringing the vibe in the house down any further than it has come already.
Any suggestions for a day off together? Ignore each other? Be gone? Help!
I received a lot of great advice on this forum and here is what I did... When W and I are in the house together alone ( which is everyday) I just go about my business. I'd clean or do something that needs to be done (painting, fixing something). I would not avoid my W but also would not initiate conversation. When my W said something to me I would respond in an upbeat tone and say things like "of course" if asked to do/get something, always speaking in a calm/inviting / If my W did talk to me I did NOT take this as an opportunity to start talking or carrying on other conversations. Took while to get the hang of it and sometimes I still slip up.
Today I can honestly say things are FAR better then they were 2 months ago, I regret not applying all the advice/tips I received sooner.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
