To say the least she kind of sounds crazy right now. Thats the thing many of us don't really think about is being a WAS and all the justifying, the dual lives ( up to a point ), really does put them in crazy land. It will take years for them to get out of it if they make that decision. You make all this sound a lot harder now that I think about it.
Oh, as long as you think as you have been your going to be fine.
