Does anyone have a suggestion about if I should have my W read the five love language book? I know to keep the DR away from her but should we both be aware of out LL and try to understand how they work together?
I am not one to give advice due to the fact I am going through the early stages of my sitch but in many some ways we have a similar sitch.
When I first purchased the DR a few months back when our sitch first began I wanted my W to see that I was reading it so she knew I was taking our R/M seriously. When my sitch first started my W was VERY BITTER and NASTY and accused my of NEVER loving her so I waved the book in her face. She could careless what I was reading, to her I was just wasting my time on a lost cause.
More recently I purchased an ebook of 5LL, after reading it I thought "If my W read this she would realize love is a choice and this whole ILYBNILWY is something she can overcome" So I went out and purchased a hard copy. I read the book again, and then I started to leave the book laying around the house as if I forgot it somewhere. In some instances my W has stacked magazines or other things on top of the book. So in other words she has no interest and I get the point.
I have, however, leave self help books out in the open with my bookmark visible so my W can see (if she choose to) that I am making progress on bettering myself. I have a great book on anger management that I been reading. My W has not said anything to me about it, nor do I ever see that it has been touch besides when I move it but I know she does see it.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
