Better Days

[ImprovedRomeo]

Do I trust her? No.
Do I need her? No.
Do I love her? Yes.
Do I want my boys raised in an intact family? Yes.
Do I think she's messed up and better left alone? Probably.
Can I make a fantastic life without her? Yes.
Do I really want to put up with her? No.
Do I value marriage and family? Yes.
DO I WANT TO GO THROUGH THIS AGAIN in a couple of years? No.

Exactly! That's how I would've answered those questions myself (with one exception- I'm often bored on the weekends and miss her company but I need to work on that)

Like you I made a lot of changes the previous time she left. I'm sure over time I too lost some of those changes but had she not walked away I would've done what I could to fix the issues and would've asked her to help fix the issues I felt were important (communication and our sex life).

Bill, I think your STBXW really likes what she sees in you i.e. a strong, confident guy who doesn't need her to survive, who didn't fall to his knees because of what she did. So now she's kicking herself for walking away from someone desireable like you. Of course, this could be a temporary thing but I think at some point most WAS will look back and regret their decisions -even if briefly. Though I'm sure most will come up with various justifications to ease their pain.

Hope you're recovering well.