Exactly...

He isn't going to hop off an unstable train (his life) to jump to yours if you are a nightmare to him.

DETACH...we have all been saying this for months...

detachment is for YOUR health and it proves much more effective than chasing him ever has...

We have also said this before... do NOT meet with him ALONE... it rarely if ever goes well.

You tell him two things :

1. I want to save our marriage (or as you put it, I don't want a divorce)
2. I am busy this weekend/weeknight/day etc

Don't take the first offer.. you gotta play "hard to get" so to speak...

Which therapist are you seeing?

Last edited by Allen A; 05/01/10 02:55 PM.