Soo.. Looks like I am closing this chapter and looking forward to my next relationship. Went to finally file a complaint against the therapist and there was already an investigation open. Turns out it's in writing from the state's Counseling Board.. she ended therapy with my soon to be ex-H in July and less than a month later started a "romantic relationship" with him that ended in October 2009.
Now the sudden moving out in August makes sense. and when I found the following email the night he moved out I figured it but he kept denying it- saying it was only a flirty relationship. email entitled "if we only could" .. he writes "I have to shower.. alone :-( here's her response. I was blown out of the water:
If I were there I would love to take a shower with you. I would wash you all over- one place in particular- before bending over and taking you in from behind. You can plan on many many showers together in our future.”
you know he was getting some stellar therapy that year leading up to this.
when I saw it, I forwarded it on both of them saying hi, I'm Rhody5, H's wife. Thanks for this email, it clarifies a lot." I got an emotional email back from him saying i ruined his life, she doesn't want to see him again.. apparently, guess that wasn't true for too long.
And why he came crying back in November makes sense. Guessing she dumped his sorry butt. So he was sleeping with her even through out anniversary in September....nice..
but why the heck deny it- he was denying it straight up through yesterday until I got the confirmation.
she interestingly only got a slap on the wrist - she is to attend therapy, be monitored by a supervisor, attend some "moral boundaries" class and then write a paper on what she learned over the past year.
So I learned a lot though this experience and DB, DR, and this message board have taught me so many valuable things for my next relationship. I'm just not going to even try to make this one work any longer.. even woke up to the following post from his sister on one of the social media sites "Thinking about how person chooses dogs over her marriage and tries to play victim. get a grip bitch...'
