This gives me an opportunity to hopefully point out a difference in women when the M is in serious trouble. Two examples here: Starvingartist, who doesn't want to leave her M (if I understand her thread)and Tattoo's W, who is ready to walk away and file for a D. The game plan is very different b/c these are two VERY different wives.

I'm not saying that Starvingartist's advise in this post is not usable or valuable.....I don't mean that at all. But the techniques in how you (Tattoo) respond to your thread right now during the walk-away wife phase is critical. If you were to begin using--for example--the "Love Dare" techniques with your WAW, it would be sickening to her b/c of it's pursuing ways. But, if you had used it before it reached this place in the R, she would have seen it as being wonderful. I'm not up to date with SA's thread, but it would probably be food for her soul if her H would apply those principles. If the D is busted, "then" you can use techniques more like those in books like LD. The 5 LL was to just help you understand that not everyone responds to the same action and/or receives those good feelings of "I am loved" in the same way. Besides, it a tiny book that you can read in a little bit. DR will need to be "studied" and used like a marriage manual.

I strongly suggest that you lay the 5 LL down for now or just read the thing and get focused on the DR book. DR is priority, okay?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!