Nice, huh? I told him nice try with his made up cr*p but, even he couldn't lie that well for 33 years! I said that would mean you not only "lied" to me, but to my family, your family, our friends, our pastors and church friends, The U.S. Army, our children, etc. I laughed and said no way that you could be the best actor to ever grace the earth and lie that much. And yes, I told him he was sick. And he needs to seek help fast. I also told him he was real close to me calling and having him taken to the hospital for an evaluation. With that he said "remember if I lose my job, you won't get any money from me." I told him then he'd better run, not walk to seek help. And that he was close to a breakdown where he could lose his job without it having anything to do with me.
I know this hurts, my H has said similar things to me. Not that he hopes I die, but that he never loved me, it's all my fault, he faked it for years (emphasis is on the YELLING of FOR YEARS, FOR YEARS, DO YOU HEAR ME, FOR YEARS!!!)
Anyway, it hurts, but if you want your H back, I really feel as if you should be validating his feelings, or just walking away and saying "don't talk to me like that." Do not get dragged into his crazy, that's what he wants. He will use it to remember how angry you are. Flip it around, make him realize how strong and sane you are, that you're a pillar of strength and a beacon of light for him.
