The Damned "What Ifs"

[Goingdownhill]

So basically I've said 'no contact' with OW (note its been an internet affair with high school sweetheart), gave the final ultimatum of 'No contact' and counseling. Then within 69 days he contacted her again while I was traveling.

And I've been good about not rubbing the OW in his face.

Then I gave him another letter after the NC and he contacted her to say we needed a temporary separation. And that I knew he wasn't truthful about having sex with the OW. That he needed to get tested for an STD because she has a known one and he could be a carrier. He cried on phone message to me.

So I'm stuck. What if he contacts her again, what if he never goes to counseling and what if he never gets tested? I'm confused about where I go from here.

GDH