what Bworl said. I don't trust her. She needs lots and lots of "feedback" from as many authoritative sources as possible. Especially authorities with the power to take from her. Don't they prohibit "parental alienation" there? It is a big deal here in Calif and you can LOSE custodial rights by bad mouthing the other parent even if what you say is true.... Kids do not need to hear it all just b/c we say "it 's the truth". It hurts them. Each parent is part of them and the same gender child very closely identifies with that parent until they're much older.
Bad mouthing the other parent gets under a kid's skin and does damage. The courts know this and try hard to get thru to the parents. Surely IN TIME, even your w will allow some of it to sink in. She'll see the pain in them when she's alone with them, and she won't always be able to blame you b/c it's too obvious, and even she will know that it will hurt them too. She may even say "we made some mistakes" and not say "Bad daddy is a bully"...etc.
ONE thing to recall about dating--is that the sooner she learns of you dating a significant other, the sooner she'll blame "the OW"...no kidding for the div, when talking to the kids. So keep them safe from that.
I am Looking forward to your new life Frank, and on your behalf I say, "bring it on". j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
