Everyone here started out at probably the lowest point they had ever been in their lives. As an LBS you are fighting severe attachment to someone you have shared a life with and love. Some of us (ME) even were in copdependent relationships that are even harder to pull out of a nosedive...
BUT YOU CAN DO IT. You had the courage to come here, reach down inside and find your inner hero. That hero is going to save YOU and your M.
YOU have to come first.
Can you think of a person more deserving than You that needs saving?
Here's some imagry to help. You are the beacon, the light house, the light that shines in the distance and the brighter you shine the better H can find his way back to you. But you have to go on ahead with out him for now. And you can. You're the stronger one aren't you? You're here.
You're living this and these people here are trying to help. But it is painful to be here and work on this. Do you want to give up? Ask yourself. Are you quitting on this. You need to have your goal firmly in your grasp here GF. WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Another analogy that might help you were in the water with H and he is drowning and you're trying so HARD to save him but he's so scared he's crawling on top of you and now you both are drowning.
You need to swim away for the shore and reach your hand back from solid ground and pull H out.
You are the stronger person here GF, get stronger, get better.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
