Does anyone have a suggestion about if I should have my W read the five love language book? I know to keep the DR away from her but should we both be aware of out LL and try to understand how they work together?
Tattoo, I think it is in the DR book, but the H of the WAW is not to try to get her to read any R/M books. Don't try to encourage her to join you in watching a video or listen to tapes on M, love, etc. Why? B/c she will see all of those things being pressure on her. She will not be a happy camper. It will backfire on you, if you don't trust me and proceed to try to talk her into reading this.
I know that you want her to have the information about the 5 LL. But, right now....you are the one wanting to save the M and it will be YOU who will do the work...not her. If you discover what her LL is, by reading that book, then you can begin to apply her LL and hopefully you will start to see her respond to that. She can read LL at a future time. You need a "game plan" and DR and 5 LL can be part of that game plan.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
