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[old theotherhalf]

They are right Hope. And I know as well as anyone here that it is SOOO hard to step away from him and start taking care of you. It's one of the hardest things I have EVER had to do in my life. But I did and today I am doing well. Oh-no question I miss my H very very much and if he came to me today and asked me to come home it would be very hard for me not to just say okay and let him in. I don't THINK I would though. Too much water over and under the bridge. Too much heartache. Too much damage. I would however I hope leave the door open to see if he'd work to come home and maybe start a NEW life with me.

"it's only when you take yourself out of the equation that the MLCer is forced to look at the OW and see her flaws ... and, more importantly, realize he's not found nirvana with her. THAT could be a trigger for his beginning to face his own depression and deal with his childhood issues."

I believe this is what I see going on with my XH now. I think. I am staying out of it. I guess we'll see what happens. When they tell you here that this all takes time...believe them. There are NO EXCEPTIONS. I didn't believe, I thought my H was different. I thought we had a bond that would prevail. 3 years later my XH is still with OW off and on and very much still in MLC.

Trust them here Hope. Believe what they say. And take their best advice. Stop the madness for YOU. Take care of YOU.

God Bless,
TOH